My fiancée is Japanese and has spent most of her adult life overseas, so PR or even naturalization here wouldn’t actually be that hard for me. I’ve already given up on both. At this point, Japan is just a stepping stone, not a country I’d ever trust with my future.
If we have kids someday, I don’t want them to be Japanese citizens either, or grow up soaking up the worst parts of this culture and its values.
She was smart enough to leave early and build a life somewhere else. Looking back, I was the stupid one for ever thinking Japan was somewhere worth building a future.